Sunday, October 16, 2011

Motherhood is Hard...

I hear this throughout my day in my psychotherapy office as I sit with moms. Working moms, stay at home moms, pregnant moms, women trying to get pregnant... As I race home from the office to the bus stop, thinking about all of the unfinished business at the office and obsessing about how to pull together a quick healthy dinner for the family, I often have the same thought, "Motherhood is hard". So why is it that in our culture we are bombarded with images with women keeping the "perfect" house and raising"perfect" kids, all without breaking a sweat? Commercials, television shows and movies continue to portray this unrealistic image of motherhood adding to the never ending guilt that we experience as mothers who never feel like we are doing enough. We all know rationally there is no such thing as the "perfect" anything, yet we seem to continue to place unrealistic expectations on ourselves and others around us.

My mission as a psychotherapist is to help support women and families to be the best they can be and to give permission to be perfectly imperfect. Everyday I have to remember to take my own advice and resist the urge to judge or criticize myself. The more we can help support each other in honoring our strengths and being mindful and forgiving our our challenges, we may just be able to give ourselves some credit for the hardest (and most rewarding) job ever!

1 comment:

  1. Saw the following quote today....sums up what you have taught me...

    "There is no way to be a perfect mother....but a million ways to be a good one"

    Michelle you have taught me that we do what we can and have to realize not to stress ourselves over being that "perfect" mom.
    The "million ways" that we make ourselves a good mom, is perceived as perfect by our children.